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1 Developmental Resources Presents Please Ask Questions Via Chat! Presented by: Steph Jensen, MS, LPC Objectives Understand the influence of biology and neurology on aggression. The Girl s World gender roles and stereotypes Signs and symptoms of the top 3 internalizing disorders in girls. Effective intervention strategies to build resiliency and wellness. Coping strategies that create a foundation of wellbeing. Girls will be Girls Girls (but not boys) have been shown to exhibit greater physiological arousal in response to relational conflicts (Murray- Close & Crick, 2007) Girl bullying starts as early as preschool (Brigham Young University Study, 2005) Mean Girls: Behind the Mask Webinar 1

2 Girls will be Girls Girls will be Girls Patience, intuition, empathy, worry, decision making and emotional memory Aggression Hormone control is active earlier causing puberty and increased emotional sensitivity Mean Girls: Behind the Mask Webinar 2

3 Girls will be Girls Girls: Typically social beings Their identity gained within social groups and bonding with each other Value the importance of fitting in and having friends Generally start to find their social identity around eight Finding a niche is a vital part of adolescent development. Mask Makers Gender Culture Media Mask Makers: Gender Children develop gender-typed patterns of behavior and preferences as early as age 15 to 36 months. Between the ages of 8 and 11 years, girls tend to be androgynous. They view themselves as strong and confident and are not afraid to say what they think. Mean Girls: Behind the Mask Webinar 3

4 Mask Makers: Gender Mask Makers: Culture Stable Confident Strong Tough Aggressive Leader Fashionable Emotional Kind Sensitive Polite Gentle Mask Makers: Media Lillian Russell: Actress and Sex Symbol Early 20 th Century Kate Hudson: Actress and Sex Symbol Today Mean Girls: Behind the Mask Webinar 4

5 Mask Makers: Media Percent of American females who possess the body type portrayed in advertising as the ideal : 5% Mask Makers: Media Percent of 5 th 12 th grade girls who reported wanting to lose weight because of magazine pictures 48% Mask Makers: Media Percent of 1 st -3 rd grade girls who want to be thinner 42% Mean Girls: Behind the Mask Webinar 5

6 Mask Makers: Media 81% Percent of 10-yearolds afraid of being fat Mirror, Mirror Off the wall! Me, Myselfie and Eye Me, My Selfie and I PURPOSE: Girls will explore their personal body image beliefs and begin to develop a positive and healthy self-appraisal of their body image. (See Activity in the Handout). OBJECTIVES: 1. Explore personal body image beliefs. 2. Reassess body image and develop positive and healthy acceptance of body. Mean Girls: Behind the Mask Webinar 6

7 Mask Makers: Media Most girls have good intentions when it comes to using social networking sites Girls who reported being the target of online bullying, report that the bully was most often a friend from school (31.3%), someone else from school (36.4%), or someone from a chat room (28.2%). Saving Face: Mental Health & Internalizing Disorder Anxiety Depression Suicide Ideation Internalizing Disorders Saving Face Stress Suicide Ideation Self- Injury Rumination Mean Girls: Behind the Mask Webinar 7

8 Removing the Mask Spiritual Social Physical Academic/Career Emotional Physical Maintain or start an active lifestyle Eat a balanced diet Get enough sleep Make responsible choices regarding drugs and alcohol Social Ability to develop and maintain healthy relationships Building a healthy support system of family and friends Effectively communicating with those around you Becoming involved in organizations/activities Initiating social gatherings for you, your family, friends Mean Girls: Behind the Mask Webinar 8

9 Emotional Express emotions in a healthy way Maintains/builds healthy relationships with others Asks for help in handling emotions Practices effective stress/anger management skills Ability to adjust to change Career and Academic Effective problem solving skills Setting challenging and healthy academic & career goals Seeking resources to help you make decisions & succeed Continuously striving to learn and improve your skills Being open-minded to new life experiences & career paths Creating networks with classmates, professors, and future employers Spiritual Being able to define what you value in life Taking time for self-reflection Participate in community service Recognizing nature Awareness of personal feelings, emotions, and thoughts Having a clear sense of right and wrong, and acting accordingly Mean Girls: Behind the Mask Webinar 9

10 Dream Weaver Activity Spiritual-Blue Social-Orange Physical-Red Academic/Career-Yellow Emotional-Green Removing the Mask Hope is visiting your future in your mind and coming back to prepare for it. Contact Information Steph Jensen Tel: Professional Development: Developmental Resources Web: Tel: Onsite Training Opportunities: AccuTrain Tel: Books / Resources: AccuTrain Web: Tel: Mean Girls: Behind the Mask Webinar 10

11 Resources by Steph Jensen UPCOMING ONE DAY SEMINARS UPCOMING CONFERENCES Mean Girls: Behind the Mask Webinar 11

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13 D R E A M W E AV E R AC T I V I T Y O b j e c t i v e : T o a s s e s s p e r s o n a l w e l l n e s s a n d s e t g o a l s f o r i m p r o v i n g a r e a s w h i c h n e e d e n h a n c e m e n t. D i r e c t i o n s : A n s w e r t h e f o l l o w i n g q u e s t i o n s a n d s c o r e a t t h e e n d o f e a c h s e c t i o n. C o l o r t h e s e c t i o n o f t h e w h e e l w i t h t h e a p p r o p r i a t e s c o r e. 1. P h y s i c a l I a m a c t i v e f o r a t l e a s t m i n u t e s a d a y. Y e s No I e a t f r u i t s a n d v e g e t a b l e s, a n d i n c l u d e f i b e r d a i l y. I e a t b r e a k f a s t e v e r y m o r n i n g. I d r i n k a t l e a s t 4-6 g l a s s e s o f w a t e r a d a y. I g e t e n o u g h s l e e p s o t h a t I f e e l r e s t e d a n d a l e r t. M u l t i p l y t h e n u m b e r o f Y e s r e s p o n s e s x 2 = 2. S o c i a l I g e t a l o n g w e l l w i t h m y f a m i l y. I d e v e l o p a n d m a i n t a i n s t r o n g f r i e n d s h i p s. I h e l p o t h e r s i n n e e d. I h a v e f r i e n d s w h o s u p p o r t a p o s i t i v e l i f e s t y l e. M y b e h a v i o r r e f l e c t s a p o s i t i v e a t t i t u d e. M u l t i p l y t h e n u m b e r o f Y e s r e s p o n s e s x 2 =

14 3. E m o t i o n a l I h a v e a g o o d s e n s e o f h u m o r. M y s l e e p i s r e s t f u l ; I r e c e i v e a d e q u a t e s l e e p. I a m a b l e t o e x p r e s s m y f e e l i n g s a p p r o p r i a t e l y. I r e l a x m y b o d y a n d m i n d w i t h o u t u s i n g d r u g s. I f e e l p o s i t i v e a b o u t m y s e l f. M u l t i p l y t h e n u m b e r o f Y e s r e s p o n s e s x 2 = 4. A c a d e m i c / C a r e e r I c o m p l e t e m a j o r a s s i g n m e n t s a n d h a n d t h e m i n o n t i m e. I a m a b l e t o s a y " N o " t o a s o c i a l a c t i v i t y w h e n I s h o u l d s t u d y. T h e f r i e n d s I c h o o s e a t s c h o o l a r e s e r i o u s a b o u t s t u d i e s. W h e n I s t u d y, t h e t e l e v i s i o n o r r a d i o i s o f f. I a m a b l e t o r e a d f o r a n h o u r w i t h o u t b e c o m i n g s l e e p y. M u l t i p l y t h e n u m b e r o f Y e s r e s p o n s e s x 2 =

15 5. S p i r i t u a l I s p e n d t i m e t h i n k i n g, w o n d e r i n g o r w r i t i n g a b o u t m y l i f e a n d i t s m e a n i n g ( p r a y e r, m e d i t a t i o n, j o u r n a l w r i t i n g ). I a m p a r t o f s o m e t h i n g g r e a t e r t h a n m y s e l f. I r e a l i z e t h a t m y a c t i o n s a f f e c t t h o s e a r o u n d m e a s w e l l a s m y s e l f. M y b e l i e f s d e m o n s t r a t e a r e s p e c t f o r m y s e l f a s w e l l a s o t h e r s. I e n j o y b e i n g o u t s i d e a n d e x p e r i e n c i n g t h e w o n d e r s o f n a t u r e ( s o l i t u d e, e n e r g y l e v e l, a p p e a l i n g t o t h e s e n s e s ). I a m o p t i m i s t i c. M u l t i p l y t h e n u m b e r o f Y e s r e s p o n s e s x 2 =

16 N o w c o l o r i n t h e w e l l n e s s w h e e l s w i t h t h e a p p r o p r i a t e s c o r e f o r e a c h s e c t i o n. I s t h e w h e e l i n b a l a n c e? W h a t a r e a s n e e d t o b e i m p r o v e d? T h e g o a l i s t o b e c l o s e t o 1 0 i n a l l d o m a i n s o f w e l l n e s s

17 M E, M Y S E L F I E & I A C T I V I T Y P U R P O S E : G i r l s w i l l e x p l o r e t h e i r p e r s o n a l b o d y i m a g e b e l i e f s a n d b e g i n t o d e v e l o p a p o s i t i v e a n d h e a l t h y s e l f - a p p r a i s a l o f t h e i r b o d y i m a g e. O B J E C T I V E S : 1. E x p l o r e p e r s o n a l b o d y i m a g e b e l i e f s. 2. R e a s s e s s b o d y i m a g e a n d d e v e l o p p o s i t i v e a n d h e a l t h y a c c e p t a n c e o f b o d y. R E S O U R C E S / M A T E R I A L S : D o v e I n n e r C r i t i c V i d e o h t t p s : / / w w w. y o u t u b e. c o m / w a t c h? v = P P j e e l g G 9 C g P e n / P e n c i l / C o l o r e d p e n c i l s / M a r k e r s / C r a y o n s O p t i o n a l : A c t i v i t y c o u l d b e d o n e w i t h c e l l p h o n e o r p e r s o n a l c a m e r a a l l o w i n g g i r l s t o t a k e a S e l f i e f o r t h e a c t i v i t y. P R O C E D U R E : 1. S h o w t h e D o v e I n n e r C r i t i c v i d e o. ( I f y o u d o n t h a v e a c c e s s t o t h e v i d e o ; e x p l a i n t o t h e g i r l s t h a t w h e n a s k e d t o l i s t t h i n g s t h a t w e d o n t l i k e a b o u t o u r b o d i e s, g i r l s / w o m e n a r e v e r y q u i c k t o b e g i n a l o n g, l o n g l i s t o f d i s l i k e s. W h e n a s k e d t o l i s t t h i n g s w e d o l i k e a b o u t o u r b o d i e s i t t a k e s m u c h, m u c h l o n g e r t o c o m e u p w i t h o n e l i k e. ) 2. E x p l a i n t o g i r l s t h a t a s w o m e n, o u r b o d y i m a g e i s s h a p e d f r o m e a r l y c h i l d h o o d t h r o u g h m e d i a, c u l t u r e a n d c o m m u n i t y t o b e l i e v e t h a t i t ' s s o c i a l l y i n a p p r o p r i a t e t o l o v e o u r b o d i e s, o r a t l e a s t, t o a d m i t t h a t w e l o v e t h e m. W e b e g i n t o t a l k w i t h e a c h o t h e r a b o u t p a r t s o f o u r b o d i e s t h a t w e d i s l i k e a n d w a n t t o c h a n g e. I n o u r f r i e n d s h i p s i f a f r i e n d s t a r t s c o m p l a i n i n g a b o u t

18 " f e e l i n g f a t, " w e h a v e a l m o s t a u t o m a t i c r e s p o n s e s ; w e a s s u r e h e r s h e i s n ' t f a t, a n d t h e n f i n d s o m e p a r t o f o u r o w n b o d y t o c o m p l a i n a b o u t t o t a k e t h e f o c u s o f f o u r f r i e n d a n d r e d i r e c t t o o u r s e l v e s. S i m i l a r l y, w h e n w e ' r e com p l i m e n t e d o n o u r l o o k s, w e a r e q u i c k t o b e m o d e s t a n d r e s p o n d w i t h p h r a s e s l i k e " O h, r e a l l y?! I v e a l w a y s t h o u g h t t h a t w a s t o o b i g / s m a l l / p o i n t y / l o n g " o r " O h, t h a n k s, b u t I r e a l l y w i s h I h a d y o u r e y e s / l o n g l e g s / h a i r / s t o m a c h... " W e f i n d i t d i f f i c u l t t o c o m p l i m e n t o u r s e l v e s a n d f i n d t h e g o o d i n o u r o w n b o d y i m a g e ; e v e n w h i l e w e a r e q u i c k t o f i n d t h e g o o d i n o t h e r s. W e n e e d t o l o o k a t o u r s e l v e s w i t h a n e w i n n e r e y e. 3. A s k t h e g i r l s t o d r a w a p i c t u r e o f h e r b o d y o n t h e p i e c e o f p a p e r / o r t a k e a f u l l - b o d y S e l f i e. 4. W h e n t h e y h a v e f i n i s h e d a s k t h e m t o l o o k a t t h e i r d r a w i n g / p h o t o a n d l i s t a m i n i m u m o f F I V E t h i n g s s h e l i k e s / l o v e s / a p p r e c i a t e s a b o u t h e r b o d y. E a c h p e r s o n c a n a l s o l i s t a m a x i m u m o f O N E t h i n g s h e d o e s n ' t l i k e a b o u t h e r b o d y. H e r e a r e s o m e e x a m p l e s t o s h a r e i f g i r l s g e t s t u c k : C u r l y h a i r, s t r a i g h t h a i r, s t r o n g b r o a d s h o u l d e r s, f r e c k l e s, m y m o m ' s e y e s, b i g e y e s, s i n g l e - l i d d e d e y e s, l o n g e y e l a s h e s, i n t e r r a c i a l f e a t u r e s, h i g h c h e e k b o n e s, t i n y h a n d s, b e i n g t a l l, b e i n g s h o r t, l o n g l e g s, f u l l l i p s, n a t u r a l l y p i n k l i p s, p r e t t y f e e t, l o n g / s h o r t t o e s, l i g h t s k i n, d a r k s k i n, c l e a r s k i n, s t r o n g l e g s, f u l l b o t t o m, c u r v y h i p s, e t c

19 5. H a v e t h e g i r l s s h a r e t h e i r p i c t u r e, a n d e x p l a i n t h e i r l i s t. E n c o u r a g e t h e g i r l s t o e x p l a i n e a c h i t e m o n t h e " l i k e " l i s t r a t h e r t h a n j u s t r e a d t h e m a l o u d. ( i. e., " I l i k e m y e y e s b e c a u s e t h e y a r e t h e s a m e c o l o r a s m y m o m ' s... " ) 6. A f t e r e v e r y o n e h a s s h a r e d e n c o u r a g e t h e g i r l s t o k e e p t h e i r p i c t u r e a n d l i s t t o r e f e r e n c e w h e n t h e y b e g i n t o h a v e n e g a t i v e o r u n h e a l t h y t h o u g h t s a b o u t t h e i r b o d y i m a g e. * R e f e r e n c e D o v e s: T H E R E A L T R U T H A B O U T B E A U T Y : A G L O B A L R E P O R T a t h t t p : / / w w w. s t r a t e g y o n e. c o m / d o c u m e n t s / d o v e _ w h i t e _ p a p e r _ f i n a l. p d f f o r m o r e i n f o r m a t i o n o n w o m e n s b o d y i m a g e.