Prepared by: Susan Moffat Extension Educator Cleveland County

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1 Personality Plus Understanding Others By Understanding Yourself Prepared by: Susan Moffat Extension Educator Cleveland County

2 Discover the person you ve always wanted to be! When we know who we are and why we act like we do, we begin to understand our inner self and learn how to get along better with others.

3 There is only one YOU! No two people are alike It s what s underneath that counts Each person is unique Examine your strengths and your weaknesses Accentuate positives & eliminate negatives Realize that different does not mean wrong

4 A Look at Your Personality Emotions As a Parent At Work As a Friend

5 Personality Profile Place an X in front of the ONE word that most applies in each row. If in doubt, ask a friend, spouse or co-worker. Add the strengths and weaknesses together for a combined total.

6 Personality Profile Your personality profile is the highest combined total of the four profiles Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholy, and Phlegmatic. You may be strong in more than one area.

7 Four Personality Types: Sanquine Fun & Popular Melancholy--Perfectionist Choleric Born Leaders Phlegmatic--Peaceful

8 Popular Sanquine Strengths The Extrovert * The Talker * The Optimist Seem exciting Friendly and fun Love people Outgoing Expect the best Good temperament Talkative, storyteller Life of the party Memory for color Hold on to listener Good on stage Enthusiastic Expressive Volunteer for jobs Creative & colorful Inspire and charm Make friends easily Always a child

9 Perfect Melancholy Strengths The Introvert * The Thinker * The Pessimist Deep, thoughtful, Analytical Serious & purposeful Intellectual, genius Talented & creative Detail oriented Lists, charts, graphs Orderly & organized Neat & tidy Perfectionist High standards Economical Compassionate Seek ideal mate Deep Concern for others

10 Powerful Choleric Personality The Extrovert * The Doer * The Optimist Born leader Need for change Strong-willed Decisive Can run anything Goal oriented Organizes well Delegates work Thrives on opposition Little need for friends Is usually right Excels in emergencies

11 Peaceful Phlegmatic Personality The Introvert * The Watcher * The Pessimist All purpose person Low-key personality Easygoing Cool, calm, collected Patient, well balanced Reconciled to life Mediates problems Gets along well with others Has many friends Good listener Has administrative ability

12 Positives Carried to Extremes Become Negatives Popular Sanquines are constantly talking, monopolizing, interrupting and straying from the truth. Perfect Melancholy s analytical thinking creates moodiness & depression. Powerful Choleric s leadership can appear to be bossy and controlling. Peaceful Phlegmatic s easygoing nature leads others to think they are indecisive and indifferent.

13 Organize the Popular Sanguine Problems: Solutions: Talks too much Self-Centered Doesn t follow through Do not think they have faults Talk half as much Watch for boredom Condense comments Stop exaggerating Learn to Listen Be sensitive to others

14 Organize the Popular Sanguine Some more Problems: Solutions: Poor memory Disorganized Immature Fickle Loses car and kids Pull life together Grow up Avoid filling in the gaps Put others first Make lists

15 Cheer Up the Melancholy Problems: Think they are perfect Take things personally Get Depressed Procrastinate Put unrealistic demands on self Low self image Solutions: Make self cheerful Avoid negative thinking Don t be easily hurt Look for positives Don t be own worst enemy Relax standards Find insecurities and correct them

16 Tone Down the Choleric Problems: Never has a fault Compulsive worker Pressures others Must be in control Cannot tolerate weakness Lacks patience Wants to correct others Solutions: Learn to relax Avoid Guilt Take off pressure Respond to other leaders Stop looking down Admit faults, apologize Practice patience Stop arguing Keep advice to self

17 Motivate Phlegmatics Problems: Not exciting Resist Change Appear lazy Procrastinate Stubborn Communication Will of iron Pessimistic Solutions: Get Enthused Try something new Accept responsibility Do it today Open up Motivate yourself Learn to communicate Set goals & make rewards

18 Natural Blends Popular Sanquine/Powerful Choleric Both Outgoing Optimistic Outspoken Sanquine talks for Pleasure Choleric talks for Business Greatest potential for Leadership Can direct others and make them enjoy the work

19 Natural Blends Perfect Melancholy/Peaceful Phlegmatic Both are: introverted pessimistic soft-spoken Makes the greatest educators Melancholy's love to study and research Phlegmatics get along and presents well

20 Complementary Blends Powerful Choleric/Perfect Melancholy Makes good business leadership Choleric: Leadership drive and goals Melancholy: Analytical detail-conscious scheduled Be sucessful no matter how long it takes

21 Complementary Blends Popular Sanquine/ Peaceful Phlegmatic Makes the best friends Takes it easy, and has fun. Warm & relaxed Best for dealing with people but poor with money Good in personnel, civic work and as parents

22 Opposites Popular Sanquine/ Perfect Melancholy Powerful Choleric/Peaceful Phlegmatic The Introvert/ Extrovert Optimistic/Pessimistic natures & outlooks Sanquine/Melancholy most emotional One wants to party and the other cancels the plans Choleric/Phlegmatic deal with conflict to work or not to work Phlegmatic wants to take it easy, the Choleric feels guilty if not producing

23 How to Get Along With Others

24 The Popular Sanquine Personality Recognize their inability to follow through. Realize they talk without thinking first. Realize they like variety and flexibility. Help them to keep from accepting more. Don t expect them to be on time. Praise them for everything they accomplish. Remember they are controlled by circumstances Bring them presents, they like new toys. Accept that they will make fun of what would be embarrassing for others. Realize they mean well.

25 The Perfect Melancholy Personality Know that they are very sensitive and get hurt. Realize they are programmed to be pessimistic. Learn to deal with depression. Compliment them sincerely and lovingly. Accept that they like to be quiet sometimes. Try to keep a reasonable schedule. Realize that neatness is a necessity. Help them not to become slaves to family.

26 The Powerful Choleric Personality Recognize they are born leaders. Insist on two-way conversation. Know that they do not mean to hurt. Don t push your luck. Try to divide areas of responsibility. Realize that they are not compassionate. Know that they are always right.

27 The Peaceful Phlegmatic Personality Realize they need direct motivation. Help them set goals and give them rewards. Don t expect enthusiasm. Realize that putting things off is their way of having quiet control. Force them to make decisions. Don t heap all the blame on them. Encourage them to accept responsibilities. Appreciate their even dispositions.

28 Make a Personal Plan: Understand basic temperament Admit your weaknesses Assess your strengths Evaluate your weaknesses Seek other opinions Plan your steps for Personal Improvement Ask family members for help